Forgiveness and Love for Inner Peace and Joy
Has this scenario ever played out in your life? One of your coworkers did something that really gets under your skin. You focus so intently on it that you can’t even get your work done. On your way home, you find yourself irritable to the point you snap at anyone who says anything to you, even if what they say has nothing to do with the situation. You get home, and all your family members know to stay as far away as possible because of the mood you are in. Is this your first step in the forgiveness process?
There are a lot of people on this planet. So many in fact, that at least a few of them are going to do things you don’t like. The crazy part about this is, you are the one with the problem. They will continue to go on about their lives. People keep these kinds of things bottled up for days and even weeks. When this happens, there is no inner peace.
Try the following experiment. The next time someone cuts you off while driving, imagine they are on their way to an emergency at the hospital. If you looked at it from that perspective, can you blame them for driving the way they did? How do you think you will feel if you imagine this scenario? It will be more of a feeling of peace than tension.
When you are dealing with your coworker who has done something you don’t agree with, can you put yourself in their situation? Try to see what motivated them to act in that manner. If nothing else, forgive them and see what that does for your inner peace.
Recently someone “borrowed” a concept I had been writing and speaking about for about seven years and used it as her own. I was hurt and angry at this betrayal and wasn’t sure what to do next. Then I thought about it for a few days and realized that this was someone who had not experienced much success online, even though she had started right around when I did in 2006. I decided to turn this into a positive experience instead of harboring the feelings and emotions that were coming up for me. So I created an online course based on my original concept and this was one of my most successful ones to date! I had turned around the situation to make it a positive one. Also, people began to contact me about this issue, knowing that it was me they had first heard from about it. It continues to be a growth process for me as I forgive this woman and step into my own power as I haven’t ever before.
When you genuinely forgive people, you will let go of the anger and tense feelings towards them. They no longer have the power over you that they had when those feelings welled up inside of you. Of course, you can’t pretend to forgive them only to still be angry at them. You need to truly let it go, which is not easy for most people to do. Allow the process of forgiveness and love to be a part of your life experience.
If you find it difficult to forgive people, keep in mind that you lose control of your emotions. As mentioned, it becomes your problem more than theirs. Step away from the situation and return to it when you are more self-composed. Play some high-intensity sports or do activities that will get your mind off of the situation.
After you have calmed down, you will be in a better position to look at the situation differently and understand that forgiveness is the path to great success and enlightenment.
Connie Ragen Green is a bestselling author, marketing mentor, and online marketing strategist, working with people and corporations on six continents to help them increase their credibility, expand their visibility, and explode their profitability. If you’re interested in getting started with the journey to online entrepreneurship and taking your life to the next level, find out more by downloading your Online Entrepreneur Blueprint and get started today.